One post a week for two separate blogs is more difficult than I thought it would be! But, I’m trying to keep up with them! 🙂
Today I thought I would do sort of a book/website review.
A couple of years ago, I stumbled upon a website called MentorConnect.
MentorConnect is a nonprofit organization focused on eating disorder recovery, founded by Shannon Cutts. Together, Shannon and her team work to match mentors with mentees.
Both mentors and mentees have to meet certain requirements in order to join. Mentors must be at least 18 years old and must be largely eating disorder free for at least 12 months. Mentors will be entering into relationships with mentees who are currently struggling with eating disorders, so it is important that the mentor is relatively strong in recovery. Mentees must complete an application with background information, sign the member’s agreement, and read an excerpt from Shannon Cutts book (provided online).
Once a mentee completes those steps and sends in his or her application, it takes a few weeks for processing and then you can access which mentors are accepting new mentees. Once you browse through current mentors, you can select someone you think you will be a good fit with and message that person. If you both decide to enter into the mentor-mentee relationship, you can agree on a time, date, and form of communication for your first chat. Like with any other relationship, it’s important to assess if this relationship is a good fit after chatting a few times.
MentorConnect is how I met my mentor, B. During my junior year of college, I learned about MentorConnect, immediately bought Shannon Cutts book, “Beating Ana: How to Outsmart Your Eating Disorder and Take Back Your Life,” and applied to be a mentee. Unfortunately, I don’t think I was in a place where I was fully ready to commit to recovery, so instead of figuring out how to search for a mentor, I eventually quit trying.
Two years later, D and I had moved away from my safe college support system. I was in a new place with new people and I was slipping back into eating disordered thoughts and behaviors. I needed to talk to someone who understood these thoughts and feelings, so I tried MentorConnect again. After a couple of weeks, I was matched with B, and the rest is history!
B has been there for me when others haven’t been able to. She has been in these places before and she is able to help me down off of that ledge when things start getting rough. More importantly, she has been living proof that recovery and a life without being controlled by an eating disorder is possible.
If you, or someone you know, is looking for help, guidance, or just someone to talk to who has been there, MentorConnect is a great resource that I highly recommend!
“Sometimes you can’t see yourself clearly until you see yourself through the eyes of others.” -Ellen DeGeneres